(1) What
to do if you don’t like a gift
This happens! Let’s be honest – we have all been given something we don’t like. This is where we teach our kids to use their ‘social filter.’ On some occasions, it is completely OK to stretch the truth. Explain to your kids that you don’t have to say you love it if you don’t, but have an expectation of at least saying, “thank you.”
This happens! Let’s be honest – we have all been given something we don’t like. This is where we teach our kids to use their ‘social filter.’ On some occasions, it is completely OK to stretch the truth. Explain to your kids that you don’t have to say you love it if you don’t, but have an expectation of at least saying, “thank you.”
(2) What
to do if you already have the gift
Our rule of thumb is – if there is a gift
receipt, or an offer to exchange the gift, it is totally appropriate to accept
the offer. If not, you could teach your kids to say a positive comment about
how having more than one of something is great. If you’re concerned that what
your child might say next will be inappropriate, ask them to simply say, “thank
you,” and not mention that they already have that item.
(3) What
to do if you don’t get a gift
It helps to identify that gifts are
undeserved, and given on a completely voluntary basis. You can help your child
label their emotion as being, “disappointed,” but in order to teach appropriate
social skills, we recommend not to dwell on that disappointment. Shrug it off!
Sometimes you get a gift, sometimes you don’t.
(4) What to do if you get a card
When a card is stuck to the front
of a present, teach your children to open the card first. Taking the time to
read the card shows the giver that you care about them, not just about what you are getting. Also, if there is no
gift but there is a card, prep your kids on etiquette when it comes to
appreciating a card by itself. Young children are unlikely to care deeply about
words on a card, but you can still model appreciation in the moment.
Lastly, don’t feel bad if your child exhibits
inappropriate holiday behavior. Believe us, this is very common! All of the
excitement about the holidays can lead to a crash once the parties start
happening, sugar starts being eaten and tiredness sets in. Ride the wave, stay
consistent – January will be here before you know it!